By Hayley O’Connell – Hotel Wedding Co-Ordinator
As the COVID-19 pandemic continues to spread throughout the world, it feels like the whole world has come to a standstill with all control taken out of our hands. If you are planning the most important day of your life – your wedding – other feelings and emotions around disappointment and stress will be difficult to deal with.
In recent weeks, several couples have taken to social media to detail the latest news on their upcoming weddings. Princess Beatrice and her fiancé Edoardo Mapelli Mozzi announced that they have cancelled their Buckingham Palace wedding reception, which was scheduled to take place in May. Meanwhile, the UK prime minister Boris Johnson has warned the public to only go outside for food, health reasons or work (if working from home is impossible) and to keep at least two metres apart when outside.
IT IS OK TO FEEL THE WAY YOU ARE FEELING
I am so sorry that you’ve been affected this way, IT’S OK to feel angry, sad, disappointed, anxious or maybe a sense relief given the current circumstances. IT’S OK to feel these emotions. No one could have ever anticipated this virus and the effects it would have.
ONE THING TO TAKE AWAY
The one thing I am for sure going to take away from this myself is don’t sweat the small stuff. Do you remember feeling stressed about the table plan, thinking are my table favours enough or will I have enough food for everyone? There is no point worrying about these things when really all that matters is having your loved ones around you to celebrate your special day.
POSTPONE OR CANCEL YOUR WEDDING?
I have spoken to Brides/Grooms and suppliers who are all in the same position. As a wedding venue coordinator, I highly recommend postponing your wedding rather than cancelling. I am sure if you contact your suppliers, they will do their best for you, I know our venue suppliers are doing everything they can to accommodate our Bride/Grooms new date.
MY TOP TIPS WHEN POSTPONING YOUR WEDDING
- Speak to your Registrars/Church and Venue for alternative dates available. Discuss with your partner the best date for you both. Ensure that all closest family and friends are available on your chosen date.
- Write a list of all the suppliers you have booked. Start contacting them to ask if they will move your booking to your new date. In normal circumstances, this may be tricky as it’s all about bargaining power and usually the business has the superior bargaining power to the consumer. But in the current climate, the tables have turned and I would say any sensible business will look at a postponement without any quibble or charge. Note – make any payments moving forward on a credit card to get enhanced consumer protection under the Consumer Credit Act 1974 section 75, where if the business goes under the credit card company should refund.
- Contact your guests to advise them you have postponed your wedding date – giving them all the new details. If you are unsure of the details let them know you are postponing, and you will keep them informed. Your guests will be understanding, and I am sure they will offer you lots of support.
Once you have done the above, I am sure you will feel a huge weight has lifted off your shoulders.
“I wish I could bring myself to get excited about our new wedding date, but I just can’t yet – none of us know how long this situation will remain as our new normal, and whether we may have to postpone yet again.” These kind of feelings are totally normal; the circumstances are so unfortunate but we must be positive and remember that this is only temporary. You will still be able to marry the love of your life – it’s just going to take a little longer than you originally thought. When normality resumes – and it will – we’ll appreciate things a little more and I believe this will be echoed on your wedding day.
QUOTE FOR YOU…
One of the happiest moments ever is when you feel the courage to let go of what you can’t change.
LIVE LIFE HAPPY
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Tips for you:
- It’s okay to feel anxious and sad if your plans have been postponed
- Don’t sweat the small stuff
- Look for alternative dates
- This is only temporary
- Let go of what you can’t change